Sleep

Everybody needs sleep. The real question is how much? Every single body, whether short or tall, young or old, needs sleep. Living creatures just can’t survive without it. Though sleep is such a large part of life, there still remains the question of how much sleep is good for the body. There are countless doctors or reporters that swear by a certain amount of hours of sleep every night, but how are they reliable? Sleep schedules differ from body to body, and it is clear to see why.

Animals, such as bears, are very similar to humans. Every single species of animals have different sleeping cycles. Whether it is hibernation, to being nocturnal, no two species are alike. It is the same thing with people. No two people are alike; even twins. Twins, although can look extraordinarily similar, have a few differences in the way their bodies function. Therefore, shouldn’t they need different amounts of sleep?

Some of the recommended amounts of sleep are: 6-8 hours, 8-10 hours, and 10-18 hours. However, those are for adults, teenagers, and infants. As the human body progresses on its cycle of life, the recommended sleeping cycles progress too. If they change for the stage of life, then they are different for everybody.

Lastly, there are even “experts” who claim that people who sleep too little become ugly. Though there are real consequences to sleep deprivation, those same “experts” will preach their recommended sleeping amount. Hours of sleep should not be scared into a person. Each individual should explore how much sleep their body needs, and then alter their schedules to fit into the healthy cycle of natural sleep.

All in all, sleep is important, and many people try to tell the rest of the world how long they should spend in their bed. Statistically, humans sleep for approximately one third of their lifetime. It should be spent healthily. Everybody should choose their own amount of sleep; there is no right amount.

Effects of Sleep

Sleeping is something many people do on a daily basis. Sometimes we spend half a day sleeping and sometimes a couple hours, but does the number of hours really affect how you do during the day? Sleeping is a major role in physical health and mental health.
First of all, for physical health, sleep can actually cause a gain in weight. A study had shown that children and adults who have a tendency to lack a sufficient amount of sleep are more likely to gain weight and develop obesity compared to kids and adults who sleep a good amount, which is about eight hours respectively. It was also proven that people who are sleep-deprived and lack sleep are often affected with hormones interfere with the appetite and leads to eating excess calories than those who get a sufficient amount of sleep, who intake fewer calories.
Adding on to physical health, you need your body to be the healthiest it can be when perfuming sports or some kind of extra curriculars activity. You need to be the healthiest in order to do well and can maximize the amount of energy you have to perform the sport you play. Less sleep can take away that energy and can weaken the performance of one.
Now mentally, how does sleep affect you mentally? There is obviously effects of someone’s physical health when they lack sleep but what exactly goes on mentally for someone when they do not get a good amount of sleep? Well, it could lead to disorders and affect moods most importantly, which can also lead to anxiety. Sleeping is what helps us recover from our mental health every day, and without the proper sleep, it is easy to fall into problems, which can soon lead to suicidal thoughts and depression. Sleep is an important part of our lives, and we should not overlook it because it is something that helps us recover and grow stronger for the next day.

The Mother-Daughter Relationship in Asian American Culture

It is well known how overbearing Asian parents are. Everybody has heard of the joke that if an Asian student comes home with less than an “A+” on their report card, they will get kicked to the curb. Rules of The Game clearly shows how this tendency of the so called “tiger moms” can strain a relationship. But this schism isn’t just the fault of the parents. The narrator, now grown up, looks back and realizes “how wicked” she was.

Waverly’s mom, realizing that her daughter is a genius at chess, latches on, causing her daughter to lose much of her freedom. Waverly, looking back, writes, “I no longer played in the alley of Waverly Place. I never visited the playground where the pigeons and old men gathered.” In doing so, Waverly starts to feel suffocated. She can’t understand her mother, which isn’t helped by the language barrier between them. Her mother, being from China, speaks broken English, which is muddled and hard to comprehend. Waverly hates it when her mother stands over her, watching as she studies new chess moves. But the grown up Waverly realizes that her mother might have thought herself as her daughter’s “protective ally.”

Despite the obvious strain in their relationship, Waverly still tries to please her mother. Throughout the story, the mother-daughter duo try to outmaneuver each other, and Waverly sees her mother as a chess opponent, “two angry black slits.” But perhaps this is also just a scheme of Waverly’s; she believes that if she could just please her mother, her mother would stop being so demanding. She believes that she could end the chess game with her mother if she fulfills everything that her mother wants.

Waverly dreams of running away from her mother. She sees herself being “pushed up toward the night sky until everything
below (her) disappeared.” This is just another indicator to the tense relationship she shared with her mother. Nevertheless, Waverly never estranges herself from her. Maybe it’s just because of the Chinese quality of being xiao shun, of being filial to parents. But it is clear that Waverly respects her mother; she respects that her mother “imparted her daily truths,” allowing Waverly and her brothers to become better in every which way.

The strain between Waverly and her mother is caused by a variety of factors, among them misunderstanding, miscommunication, and the uneven placement of control. However, no matter how large the rift is between mother and daughter, somehow they don’t alienate themselves from each other. This is seen in how grown-up-Waverly doesn’t write about her mother with bitterness, but describes her fairly. Waverly as an adult still views her childhood with sadness, but she has changed her view of her mother, from dreaming of running away to understanding that she was well-meaning.

Mentally Strong Yay!

Thinking in a negative way is really unhealthy and can lead to depression. Pitying yourself, envying your friends, and thinking the world is just too unfair may make you feel better in the moment, but not in the long run. This kind of thinking or perspective weakens your mental strength, so it is important to not fill our heads and minds with these destructive thoughts. There are three main beliefs that we should be aware of, so we are not tempted into enjoying the momentarily comfort they provide us with.

The first is having unhealthy thoughts about yourself. Feeling sorry for yourself, and blaming outcomes on others. To escape  this uncomfortable situation, we decide to avoid it. This often prevents us from finding the solutions, as we are too focused on the problem and all the troubles it has brought. We get stuck in the same place, and it’s hard for us to move on. You don’t necessarily have to come up with a solution that’ll immediately fix what has happened though. You can take smaller steps at a time, and it’ll still make a difference. Over time the small differences become a big difference, and it’s way better than doing nothing except feeling bad for yourself.

The second is having unhealthy thoughts about others. This comes from comparing ourselves with others around us. The only person we should be comparing to is ourselves. How have I grown, or what do I do differently now compared with what I used to do? We let them influence our lives, when we should be the ones with the ultimate decision. We should not let them shape us, and give up the control over ourselves. 

The third is having unhealthy thoughts about the world. Thinking that the world is unfair, or that it owes us. Thinking that when we have accomplished something we will get rewarded, but that is not how it works. We should accept that, but we should not use it as an excuse to not try our best. This should not hold us back, and should not make us feel less about ourselves.

The only way to be mentally strong is to give up all bad habits like envy and strengthen our good habits like appreciation. We counter those unhealthy, negative beliefs with positive ones. Just because you have been through some tough times, it doesn’t mean your whole life will be like that. You are in control and you can change your life, your world. Once you believe that you can do that, you won’t be afraid of what future obstacles you’ll be met with, and nothing can hold you back. That is what a person with strong mental strength looks like.

Flaws in a Mother-Daughter Relationship

In Amy Tan’s short story “Rules of The Game”, Waverly Jong, adolescent chess wizard, goes through a fight with her mom when she embarrasses Waverly by constantly telling everyone that “this is my daughter, [Waverly] Jong”. In their actions in response to each other, several flaws in their relationship become apparent, like lack of communication, maturity, empathy/understanding, and the lack of will to fix any.

The lack of maturity is what fuels the lack of communication, which in turn keeps Waverly and her mother from understanding each other, and the unwillingness to resolve these issues is woven all throughout these and is, of course, what keeps them from being resolved. An instance that demonstrates all of these flaws is a fight they have in a market, which stems from Waverly’s anger at her mother telling everyone they meet that Waverly Jong is her daughter.

In response to Waverly’s embarrassment and annoyance, instead of responding calmly and responsibly like an adult mother should, the mother only gives icy silence, and when she actually does respond it is to call her own daughter a “stupid girl” for accidentally bumping into someone. The mom does not show the level of maturity to be expected from her, but the same cannot be said of Waverly, because she is still growing up and cannot be expected to show the same level of maturity that her mom should, but does not. Waverly runs from the site and does not return home for hours.

In the market, Waverly does not properly communicate her feelings with her mother, and her mother nearly fails to communicate at all, leading to a complete lack of understanding on both parts of the other’s feelings. Her mother’s greeting upon her return home- that if this girl would not bother with them, they would not bother with her- demonstrates that she is unwilling to even attempt to actually have a proper talk and fix things with her daughter. Waverly says nothing and only retreats to her room, proving herself also unwilling to fix things. However, the blame for this unwillingness can be almost entirely attributed to the mom. As children and young adults, a girl’s primary role model is her mother. Mom demonstrates what a mature woman should be, and we follow her example. So when Mom teaches us a certain thing, whether it be something we should learn or the exact opposite, we learn it.

In this way, it is shown that Waverly Jong and her mother’s unwillingness to communicate and empathize with each other in a mature way can be almost completely blamed on her mother (Waverly does have other influences- friends, teachers, her own thinking, etc.), and it can only be hoped that Waverly will learn a better lesson and that she and her mom will fix things, for that is entirely up to them.

Chinese Tradition Portrayed in “Rules of The Game”

In literature, sayings, which are similar to dialogue, are used in numerous ways. It can be used to portray society, action, and religion, or used to further elaborate on an idea in the story. Amy Tan is an american author who mainly writes about Chinese mother-daughter relations. In her short story “Rules of The Game” she uses two main sayings to exaggeratedly portray Chinese tradition and action.

Here is a brief summary on Tan’s short story. There is a young Chinese girl called Waverly who lives on Chinatown with her parents and two brothers. One day, she decides to start playing chess, and over the period of a few days, she improves tremendously. Her mother also teaches her sayings. Waverly decides to attend at a competition a few weeks later, and in her mind, she thinks about her mother’s sayings. When her mother realizes that Waverly is starting to become famous and appear on news, her mom goes outside to brag and also makes her brother do more chores. Waverly gets extremely annoyed at her mom’s behavior, and her mom gets furious.

The first saying is how Waverly’s mother uses the concept “American Rules”. When her mom is looking through the chess book, the author describes it as, “She scanned the pages quickly, not reading the foreign English symbols…This American Rules” (Tan 3). Her mother truly does not understand the rule book, as it is foreign, and proceeds to call it american. This is because Waverly’s mother does not enjoy being seen as bad, hence always wants to be the best. She simply denies that it is because she is not fluent in English, but instead concludes that it is because that the rules were american. Additionally, when Waverly’s brother has to do more chores than her, they obviously complain, but her mother says that this, “Is new American rules [sic]” (Tan 4). Her mother obviously favors her daughter because she has become a master at chess, so she makes her do less chores. Instead of telling the honest truth, she tells her sons that it is a new American Rule. Since the mother thinks American rules are foreign, and bad, she assumes that her sons think the same. She is taking advantage of “American Rules” so that she is not blamed. Tan uses the “American Rules” to create something that the Chinese see as foreign, bad, or irrelevant.

The second saying is, “he not go against wind…[he] come from [sic].” (Tan 1). The saying means that one must not go against something, but rather go with it. This further simplifies down to go with the flow. Going with the flow helped her in chess in many ways. In the world of chess, go with the flow translates to adapting to your opponent’s moves. Do what flows best, what strikes the enemy best. As the situation changes, so does the “wind”, and one should move differently accordingly to their opponent. Tan portrays how Chinese tradition involves creating sayings to help people improve on different activities.

In conclusion, Amy Tan’s usage of sayings shape the way of how the reader sees Chinese tradition in this “made-up” story. “American Rules” is something, foreign, and “he not go against wind…[he] come from [sic].” is one of the many possible sayings used to help people succeed. The Chinese in this story are thought to enjoy being honored and also enjoy creating sayings to further elaborate certain doings.

The Sleep Dilemma

Us humans have been in 2 worlds. One is where you are fully conscious, and you spend most of your time in. This is the world where you wake up, where you dress and eat, where you exercise and think, et cetera. This world is called reality. The other one is a world we enter mostly at night. In order to go to that world, you must go through a portal. For most people, their portal is a bed. Others it may be a couch. This world, the birthplace of dreams, is the world of sleep. What exactly is sleep? Scientifically defined, according to Google, “Sleep is a condition of body and mind such as that which typically recurs for several hours every night, in which the nervous system is relatively inactive, the eyes closed, the postural muscles relaxed, and consciousness practically suspended.” Why is sleep important? Sleep is the brother of consciousness. Without consciousness there is no sleep, and without sleep there is no consciousness. Consciousness allows your mind to experience new things each and every day, while sleep works alongside consciousness and allows your mind to file out that day’s experiences throughout the system.

However, many people are sleep-deprived. This is major issue. Sleep deprivation is causing many people to have health-damaging conditions, sleep is important for a good mood, and good sleep means a good body. People need to obtain a sufficient amount of sleep every day.

First and foremost, poor sleep is a lot of times the reason why people are having some health conditions. For example, poor sleep is related to depression, and many teens have little sleep each day, which means teens are sometimes prone to depression. Other unaccustomed symptoms also may occur, such as headaches and drowsiness. The article “How Much Sleep Do You Really Need?” by Jade Wu illustrates, “Having an unstable schedule can cause daytime sleepiness one day and insomnia the next, which confuses both you and your body.” This means a lack of sleep is a major distraction to your body. This matters because people need decent quality time to fulfill their everyday needs and to-do’s.

Moreover, sleep is one of the determining factors of mood. If you have a good sleep, the next day you might have a great mood, and your attitude to everything will be much better. On the other hand, if one day you have poor sleep, the second day you might scream at someone and then start weeping. The text demonstrates, “A recent meta-analysis including over 1600 participants confirmed that sleep restriction is associated with poorer attention and thinking. We’ve known for decades that sleep deprivation disrupts mood.” This proves that a lack of sleep can often affect your temper, to yourself and to others. This is significant because other people are trying to live their normal day as well, and it is bad for unnecessary conflict.

Last but not least, sleep determines whether your body is benefiting or damaging. Poor sleep is linked to a higher body weight, while good sleepers tend to have healthier diets. Having good sleep minimizes your chances of getting heart disease or stroke. These are just some examples. The article “The Benefits of Slumber” mentions, “It affects growth and stress hormones, our immune system, appetite, breathing, blood pressure and cardiovascular health. Research shows that lack of sleep increases the risk for obesity, heart disease and infections.” This exhibits that sleep can affect many factors of health. This is vital because everyone needs to maintain a good physical condition in order to live a fit life.

Ultimately, people, young or old, need to keep track of the hours of sleep and have an adequate amount of rest time. They need to prevent harming conditions, gain a fine mindset and spirit, and maintain a healthy body. I encourage you to sleep a few hours more. “Sleep is the best meditation.”

Mentally Strong

Imagine you’re going through a very hard time in your life. You thought your life was perfect and on track but suddenly, something tragic happens. This is what happens to Amy Morin in her Ted Talk about “The Secret of Becoming Mentally Strong”. When she was 23, she had an amazing life with a husband and a good job. However, her mother dies. This was already hard for her but years later, her husband dies too. After she fell in love again, her father-in-law also passed away. This devastated her and she was thinking about why she has to be unlucky, why her loved ones are all leaving. This is where she says how to get through something difficult, you can’t just go around it and avoid it, you need to go through it. To be mentally strong, you should also break your unhealthy habits. Having self-pity is one way that is bad for your mental health. You keep thinking about your bad luck instead of finding a solution to it. Another is having unhealthy beliefs of others. By thinking other people have control over you, you’re giving away your power. The third harmful belief is having unhealthy beliefs in the world. You think that the world owes you something because you work very hard but it doesn’t always mean that. Breaking your unhealthy habits may be hard but being strong and healthy mentally is the key to being successful, recovering from pain, and many other things.

How Much Sleep Do You Really Need?

According to Google, people, and many other ‘sources’, people need, on average, 8 hours of sleep. Maybe some sleepless students and adults need to finish their work and get less than the rest of us. But is that the case? Do we only need 8 hours of sleep? If not, do we need more, or even less?

Sleep is a crucial part of everyone’s day, it’s a part where you can rest you mind and body, and be at peace. Sleep deprivation will make your mind go blank, go slow, go “dull”, to put it mildly, and possibly give you dangerous diseases like Alzheimer’s and heart disease. And some advertisements, “You can only live seven days without sleep.”

8 hours seems like a long time, which it is, but not necessarily long enough for you mind to recover. The amount of sleep for people ranges due to their personal needs or problems. For babies and infants, they need 11-18 hours, 7-11 hours for teens, and 5-9 hours for seniors above the age of 65.

So, statistically, the average of all those hours is 12 hours, which is a very healthy amount of sleep, if I do say so myself. I try my best to get at least 10 hours of sleep on a school day, and 12 hours on weekends, so I partially fit in the “criteria”. But this just goes to prove that 8 is mainly in the range, but it’s still on the lower half of the spectrum for teens and children.

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How much sleep does a person really need? What causes a person to be tired during the daytime? What happens when one doenst get the right amount of sleep that their body needs? We all know sleep is important for the health, well-being, and performance. A common misconception is that the average human being needs at least 8 hours of sleep everyday. This is not always the case.

On 2015, the National Sleep Foundation recommended that teens get up to 8 to 10 hours. For newborn babies, the “may be appropriate” range is from 11 to 18 hours. For seniors over 65, that range is from five to nine hours. As you can see the hours of sleep suggested varies. The amount of sleep you need depends on our body’s current needs, and generally depends on the person.

Not getting enough sleep can cause a person feel tired, exhausted, or fatigued. More symptoms include sore muscles, low energy, low motivation and mental depletion. Sleep deprivation disrupts your mood. It can trigger manic episodes with the bipolar disorder. It can even affect the microbiota that resides on or within human tissues.

This seems obvious, but sometime when a someone is sleepy, it is probably because they aren’t getting enough sleep in the nighttime. If you have ever fallen asleep during class, or on a very long car ride, then you might have a problem. This can be caused by something as simple as a bad sleep schedule, or it can be something worse like sleep apnea or narcolepsy. You can do many things to solve your excessive sleepiness, like sleeping earlier or consulting a doctor.

Getting enough sleep is very important for your health and mood. The amount of sleep needed is always different for anyone, and can change throughout your life. Keeping a consistent sleep schedule is very important and will help you get the best sleep that you need in life.