Teenagers, elders, and siblings alike, everybody is their own person. They have their own memories and experiences, as well as relationships with others. An ongoing idea throughout “The Moustache” by Robert Cormier is establishing an identity. The main character Mike learns by the end of the story that the other in his life are their own people too, and that he should savor his time with them.
Mike is an average seventeen year old boy who, as he approaches adulthood, wants to feel like an individual and to be seem as one. For example, his older sister has a boyfriend named Harry. Mike really likes him because he treats him as a separate person instead of in the context of his sister. Also as the title suggests, he wears a mustache. Although everyone including him knows that it does not suit him, he keeps it anyway because it sets him apart from others his age and makes him feel more grown up. However, he does not necessarily think of others in the same way. But he learns so through his encounter with his grandmother. She is old, weak, and sometimes delusional. He he visits her in a nursery, she mistake him for her husband, who Mike was named after. Since he died young, she voices everything she wanted to say to him, and wishes that she were more honest. Listening to her experiences, Mike learns that his grandmother had been young once too, and also had a real life. He always thought of her as just his grandmother, but now he sees her as an individual with her own past.
In addition to seeing the identities of others, Mike also realizes how fast life comes and goes. There were many things his grandmother wanted to say to her husband, but he was taken too soon. When he gets home, he immediately shaves off his mustache. He thinks of asking his parents, “there’s nothing to forgive between you, is there?”(Cormier 7). By growing out his mustache, Mike wants to become a mature adult. But his meeting with his grandmother convinced him otherwise. He now knows to just slow down and take in life.
To conclude, Mike learns two important life lessons in the story. His grandmother teaches him both about acknowledging the other people in his life and also appreciating them. The mustache that previously demonstrated his maturity is gone, as he learns to enjoy his time with his family.