In this Ted talk the guy is talking about how people can become extremely defensive. When you start to become defensive you can’t think properly and you can even get everyone else to be defensive . I think that he makes a good point saying that there are many ways that you can see that you start to become defensive. I think that sometimes I am defensive. My problem is that I can’t notice my own defensiveness.
He said that if you are able to see that you are becoming defensive then you could easily stop. How can you notice your own defensiveness though? A good idea that he said is to figure out the thing that you do when you do become defensive, and to use it as an alarm system and then when you are able to notice these things then you can stop right away.
I think that some signals for me would be that I sometimes start to raise my voice, sometimes I might start breathing very heavily, or I might stand up very suddenly. If I am able to note to myself that these things are happening then I can stop myself from becoming defensive. There are probably many other ways to stop yourself from being defensive but this works the best for me.
In conclusion, I think that this talk was very good it talked about how people become defensive and how to stop it. He talks about how being defensive effects how you are able to cooperate with others. This talk will probably help me a lot in controlling myself.
