Being defensive is a part of an average person’s life. Everybody gets angry and frustrated unless you’re a complete optimist who can even find a positive point about accidentally falling off a cliff and dying. However, defending yourself from others isn’t a good thing. In fact, you’re not even defending yourself from somebody else! You’re defending yourself from your fears that you don’t want to be with. A recent study at Purdue University has shown that the more collaborative and friendly you are, the better your chance of survival is among your group. If you do not trust others, you will probably get into a fight. This means your survival chances are very low, for both you and your community/society. Also, when you get defensive, you start to have more stubborn thinking, and then you just become stupid. You can’t do anything that requires high IQ, like problem-solving. Once you’re defensive, you won’t be able to see the world positively.
Now that we know that being defensive is bad, how do we not be defensive, or how do we notice and stop it as soon as possible? Make a warning system! Figure out the signs of you getting defensive, then use that as a warning that you are becoming defensive. When you realize you’re getting defensive, calm down, take a walk, listen to some nice classical music, or do whatever you want that helps you relax.