You’ve probably felt defensive many times in your life. This happens when you’re trying to cover up your fears of the event that is happening. However, being defensive means that it is much harder for you to make the right decision. To get out of a situation where you’re starting to be defensive, you need to acknowledge, slow down, check negative talk, take action step, and start over.
The first thing to stop defensiveness is acknowledging or knowing that you are. You could be breathing faster, confused, thinking obsessively, and many other things. For example, pretend that you are doing a project with your classmates but then you suddenly disagree on something. You argue until you start to notice that you are talking non stop because you want to think you’re right. That is a sign that you’re starting to be defensive, and acknowledging that is very important. Second thing you can do to not be defensive is to slow down. Many times, you are thinking a lot and you just need to take a breather. Step outside, take a deep breath. Third, check negative talk. Make sure that you’re not just talking about bad things. Try making it more positive. Fourth, which is one of the more important ones, take action step. You need to figure out something to stop yourself from being defensive. Lastly, you should.going over the situation again but in the right way
Stopping yourself from being defensive, in my opinion, is very important. This can stop me from being really angry and messing up something badly.