The speaker taught us three principles that can help us change our behavior. After watching it, I was thinking about how can I use these three principles? These below are some of my thoughts.
Let’s create a hypothesis first, I am trying to improve my English so I need to change my behavior and make some goals achieved. The first principle is social incentives. Most people care about the “eyes” of others, when some people are doing something good but you are not, you will feel nervous. So I will find out how do other people improve their English and make a table or something that can show their ways. Then I will find a way that fits me. The second principle is the immediate reward. I used to make a big goal that takes me a long time to achieve, then I would give myself a reward. It made me give up halfway easily because it made me feel the pressure and I couldn’t feel happy during the progress. So the best way is to separate the big goal into some small goal. For example, I used to say I want to memorize 200 words a week, but now I will say I want to memorize 30 words a day. The second way even makes me memorize many more words but it works well than the first way. I can watch a show or do something I like after I memorize the words every day, instead of waiting for a whole week to get a reward. The third principle is progress monitoring. When we are trying to achieve some goals, we can not only focus on the result. The result is unpredictable, but we can control our progress. Focus more on what we are doing instead of what will happen if we doing that. Like maybe I memorize a lot of words that I don’t use them in my daily life, but I still keep doing that every day, I believe they will help me one day. And enjoy the progress of memorizing which can train my brain.
All in all, the three principles can help us a lot. But the most important thing I think is to act now instead of talk only and you must be sure you turely want to change your behavior, if you don’t sure, the best principle won’t change you.