There are a few things I have learned from watching this TedX Talk by Amy Morin. This speech is a motivational speech on how to become mentally strong. Although the goal is to become mentally strong, there are three different thoughts that can hold you back.
The first one is unhealthy beliefs about ourselves. This essentiallty means not being able to move on from a problem. Being stuck on a difficulty without moving on can make people depressed, stressed, and basically any bad mental state. Not just that, there will most likely be more adversities coming, so if you don’t get past your current one, more bad thoughts and stress may occur.
The second one is unhealthy beliefs about others. This is when you let other people take advantage of you. This may be good because you are submissive, but sometimes you can be oversubmissive, this means you rely on what others think about you. Most of the time, people do not think good things about you, and this can drag you down if you think about it too much.
The third and final thought that holds you back is unhealthy thoughts towards the world. Often times, good deeds are not rewarded. There is no such thing as Karma. Blaming the world for things that happen to you is not going to benefit you. Sometimes expecting more than you deserve can lead to disappointment.
In conclsuion to all of this, the secret to becoming mentally strong is to get rid of these bad mental habits. Of course, easier said than done. But if people can take time, this may be the solution. Needless to say, getting rid of bad mental habits may not be easy for everyone because it needs patience, because not many people have it.